Why do people cheat? When one is in a relationship with another person, shouldn't an automatic promise be made that you will not have relations with another person?! Truth is:
22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.
5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the 1997.
22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
http://www.womansavers.com/infidelity-statistics.asp
Isn't that just interesing?! So many people cheat while they are in a relationship, so shouldnt that mean that they shouldnt even be in a relationship if they cant keep the promise to be with their loved one?
Gary Neuman is a family counselor, marriage mediator, a nationwide divorce therapist, and much more. Heas on the Oprah show, and he had an interview type thing on the Oprah show, all about cheating, and why they cheat. Neuman states that you should praise your partner and make them feel appretiated. People often cheat because they feel underappreciated, and that they do not matter in their spouses life. During his appearance, a woman tells Neuman about how her husband cheated on her. She says the "affair was painful, but the lying was worse. When you've been married for so long and you trust someone so much and they look you in the eye and they're telling you a lie, it takes a lot to move past that."
When you get married to someone, you promise to love and cherish them. To protect them and care for them. But when you cheat, and lie about it, you are taking something from them. A part of their soul, a part from their heart. When you cheat on someone, you are breaking a promise to them, whether it was spoken, or unspoken.
Isn't it sad how many people lie just to keep confrontation from happening. It is has if they don't know if their telling the truth or a lie. I think once a family is involved it makes the cheater harder to leave, yet they still decide to do wrong. But i feel (don't agree) that cheating and divorces are accepted more because of television and what we see on magazines ect. You open up the newspapers look at the marriage section compared to the divorces its sad! I hope someday we can remember the meaning of a promise!
ReplyDeleteYes, exactly! You especially see it on the cover of magazines, and they are at the end of every cash register. Celebrity break up makes everyone think its okay to cheat, and it just defeats the whole purpose of making a promise to cherish eachothers lives and such!
ReplyDeleteOOOhhhh, very touch subject for me. Im sure Ive been cheated on and didnt know it but my brothers wife had an affair last year. It was devistating. He divorced her as I think he should have. Cheaters have no idea the hurt they cause. She not only devistated him and their children, but she also devistated both sides of the family. It was very painful for all of us to loose her as she'd been in our lives for so many years. The pain she caused my brother is unforgivable. I HATE CHEATERS!
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